Anyone who has been following my blog for a while or even just had a flick through at any point will know that I love my hair, or more accurately what I can do with it. The thought of shaving it all off is slightly terrifying, but if a bit of mild terror doesn’t raise a fair amount of money I don’t know what will. It was suggested I should maybe think about a run instead but where’s the fun in that? I don’t know how I have made it through the past 5 weeks since I learned my mum wasn’t here anymore, but I’m still standing and determined for there to be even a hint of something positive to come out of all this.
There is a really unfair stigma associated with mental health and addiction. How can we as a civilised society judge people when they are going through the toughest time of their lives? Maybe it all comes down to it being easy to judge when you are on the outside looking in.
My mum had an issue with depression, anxiety and alcohol. Honestly, it isn’t something I ever talked very openly about and maybe that just makes me a part of the problem. I have found though that as soon as I have opened up about my experience there are very few people who haven’t been touched by mental health in some way. Addiction isn’t a logical place to end up, but you can see how (without professional support) if you can’t see a way out of a pit of depression and anxiety takes over, you might be tempted to self medicate to escape your living nightmare.
Something we all need to remember is, addicts aren’t bad people. They are people who are suffering, struggling and just need support. No one wakes up one day and decides to destroy their lives. This could be a naive boiling down of situations that you really can’t compare, but in my mums case this seemed to be how she was existing in the last few years of her life.
This wasn’t her defining characteristic though. I feel I really need to stress this point. She was the best mum I could have ever asked for, I wouldn’t be the woman I am today without her constant love and support. Since her passing, there isn’t a person I have spoken to who hasn’t glowed when reminiscing on memories she helped create. So much fun, laughter and love in every story.
Tribal Project help people cope with their negative behaviours in a healthy way, continuing this support to avoid relapses and assisting in taking control of lives to move forward.
Mind are probably a much more well known organisation who provide help and support for a wide range of mental health issues.
I know times are tough at the moment, but as they say every little helps and it is all incredibly appreciated.